Let's face it: We've all been somewhere, minding our own business, when you hear the most foul language pouring through the air. Wondering where it could be coming from, you notice a group of teenagers laughing and cursing as if it's all they know. You immediately begin to ask ‘Where are their parents?’ and ‘Why is there is that foul language coming from the mouth of kids.’ Rude, crude, and disgusting behavior is never acceptable. That being said, there are some things you can do to prevent that sort of behavior within your family. Here are some parenting tips.
Say goodbye to rude, crude and disgusting behavior.
What's the real issue?
When people are rude, there's usually an underlying reason for it. While that's not an excuse, it does remind us to have empathy and show compassion for people when it seems they least deserve it. If you notice your child behaving in a rude, crude, or disgusting manner, take the time to explore why they may be doing so.
Some common reasons for rude behavior are:
Stress. If someone is experiencing stress in life, external pressures may trigger rude behavior. Have you recently moved to a new home or city? Is your child attending a new school? Major changes are something to consider when addressing your child's rude behavior, as they may be the root cause of her crude behavior.
Fear. Maybe your kid is afraid of something that you're unaware of. If so, this could be what's causing her to act out.
Anger. When people don't know how to express their feelings, they can resort to some pretty negative actions.
Considering this, it's safe to say your child could probably use some love and compassion right now.
Start with home.
The way we conduct ourselves in public often reflects the values that have been instilled at home. Even if they don't, it’s the impression given to those who don't know us. By practicing respect and politeness at home, you're conditioning yourself to be respectful and polite out in public. To make respect a routine, and it to their reward chart so they experience positive reaction to positive behavior.
Have kids? Implement a zero-tolerance policy within your home. Whether it's through revoking privileges or an alternative method you've implemented in your home, teaching your kid to accept the consequences of her bad behavior will help her make good choices when away from you. So the next time your testy teen begins to behave inappropriately, nip it in the bud immediately.
And remember, don’t teach your children to fear you, but the consequence.